“Who am I?”
Oh, the teen years! Such a confusing time for most. Identity development is a huge part of being a teenager, the time where we learn who we are, what makes us unique, and what makes us fit in. Teens who begin to explore their identity may feel lost and confused, some may even participate in harmful behavior to try to fit in. Low self-esteem and lack of acceptance in a positive peer group are some examples of factors that prevent the formation of a secure and positive self-identity. When a teen lacks this positive self-identity, they are more likely to engage in risky behavior, perform poorly in school, and act compulsively.
Warning signs of teenage identity issues:
Self-worth relies on other’s opinions
Poor academic performance
Low self-esteem
Putting self down
Intense emotions of anger or sadness
Disregarding rules and limits
How can parents help:
Parents are a crucial part of teen identity development
Parents can model a healthy lifestyle and ways to manage stress
Avoid making comparisons between teens, especially their siblings
Give your teen compliments and positive reinforcement
The teenage years mark the time when we first become aware of how our identity may shape our future and our life; because of this many teens become self-conscious of how others view them. Helping teens achieve a healthy self-esteem and a positive self-identity will help them shape their perception of belonging, not only in their teen years but also in their adulthood. So, let's start the conversation.
Here are five questions to help you get started:
What does identity mean for you?
Do you feel like your name defines who you are? Why or why not? What does your name mean?
How do you define yourself (positive and negative)
How do others define you? (positive and negative) Circle the ones that you agree with.
Describe what you look like. Be as specific as possible. Circle the descriptions that you wish you could (or have) changed.