Anger and You
Anger is a difficult feeling. It makes us want to destroy things and say hurtful things we later regret. When we look back at what we said and did when we felt angry, we feel sorry and wish we had done things differently. Therapy can help you learn about your anger and teach you how to manage it. This way, instead of acting out of anger or pushing it away, you will get curious about anger and allow it to pass before it gets out of control. Therapy is a safe place to learn more about yourself, try out new activities, and make new habits that will help you be happier, calmer, and more in control when you feel angry.
Why do I feel angry?
Figuring out what makes us angry can be a little tricky. Anger seems to come out of nowhere, and sometimes when we least expect it. Some of us get angry around certain people, and others get angry when going to certain places. When we are unsure when anger will show up or what our anger is like, it is much harder to know what to do. A great place to start understanding your anger is by thinking about your anger habits, this will help you see patterns more clearly and find healthy ways to feel calm again. Understanding why you feel angry and how it affects your friends and family will help you make better choices when you feel angry.
What Happens When I Feel Angry?
Anger can be like quicksand. We can be happy and doing well, then all of a sudden fall into a feeling that can be hard to get out of. Many situations and interactions with people can make us feel angry. Sometimes what we want doesn’t match up with what someone else wants, and we have to do things we don’t want to do. This can make us feel frustrated, annoyed, and angry. Exploring what happens when you feel angry can help you see that sometimes anger can be caused by feelings from within, like hunger and tiredness. Anger can be also caused by events outside us, like playing a game with someone, or needing to stop an activity while you’re still having fun. There will always be pockets of quicksand in our lives, but we can learn to spot them in time and step around them so we don’t fall in.
What Should I Do with My Anger?
There are many ways to take care of yourself by being kind, patient, and thankful. You will see you have a lot more control over your feelings than you imagine. As you discover what to do with anger, you will also learn healthy ways of telling people how you feel and what you need. You will discover ways of understanding how others feel and what they need when they feel angry too.
Always remember that we all feel angry sometimes and that when you feel upset, you are not alone. There are people around you who want to help you feel better. If you feel you are struggling to identify reasons for your anger and need help figuring out healthy coping skills, reach out to a therapist, and they will guide you through this journey to a happier and calmer you.
How The Mind Spot Can Help
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*Cristina is supervised by Cambrey Lindsay, LPC-S.